PART 1: THE BASICS (TO GETTING LAID)

For many men, women are a mystery. They were for me, too. I was
raised by my mother, who in all her good intentions taught me
absolutely nothing about what women want in a mate. She told me to
“Just be nice.” But here’s a surprise–it doesn’t work.

Does that mean you need to be a “jerk” to get the girls ? Not
exactly. You need to embody the characteristics of an alpha male,
one who relies on nobody but himself for validation. One who walks
through life with purpose and confidence.

The good news is, seduction is a skill to learn like any other, and
with enough study and practice, the nerdiest guy can attract and
date very attractive women. How do you do this ? First you have to
meet them.

Most people meet through friends, family, and social gatherings.
Increasingly, people are using the Internet, most with limited
success. I’m not going to teach the tactics of meeting women
online, but most of this knowledge is transferable to that realm.

So what do you do when your social sphere is exhausted ? Where do
you meet women ? Well … look out your window. They are everywhere.
Approaching a stranger may seem hard at first. You may think that
you are invading their privacy, but in my experience most people
enjoy being approached, and will open up to a stranger if that
person’s energy and charisma are dialed in.

I believe almost all of this is self-mastery. . comfort in projecting
yourself outwards into your environment, trusting your right to
influence your environment, and fully internalizing the idea that any
future situation you find yourself in, you WILL be able
to take care of.

if you are not controlling events in your own life, you will feel
beta-ed at a very fundamental level. Set aside a certain amount of
time every day to be proactive about life administration. Go AFTER
the things you need to get done in your life. Control your time
management and life organization and you will build and grow masculine
fulfillment. This is self-mastery

Do not fear the future. Instead throw yourself into it, because when
you do, you will realize you actually DO have the faculties to take
care of any situation you might face.. that you’re not actually
“throwing” yourself out there, but just experiencing more of life. ,
In this way, you’re taking YOUR action, instead of just reacting to
whatever happens. This builds self-mastery

And remember.. the baseline reset to your guys’ minds and bodies, is
physical exertion. You must exhibit physical control over your own
bodies to build self-mastery

So, if you want to be attractive, and not simply entertaining, you must evolve your social skills as well as your sense of who you are to a point of complete congruence.

 

RULE:

Your identity can be high-value or low-value, or anything in between – and the value of your identity is something that you cultivate based on how entitled you think you are to have a dominant impact on your social environment, and how well you think you can handle both the good and bad reactions that go along with that.

Whether you realize it or not, there’s an idea in your mind about how much success you deserve out of life – or how much value you’re entitled to cultivate as the “guy” who you identify yourself as being. How much success you think that you’re entitled to have with women is a part of that self-concept as well.

Entitlement is a multi-layered concept, in the sense that feeling entitled to success with women is tied to feeling entitled to success in life. Many people note that the best part of studying to become good with women that is their drive for female companionship motivates them to become a better person. The confidence that they develop to get girls winds up extending into all other areas of their lives.

A guy who feels confident with women is the same guy who feels entitled to start conversations, to say what’s on his mind, to be the centre of attention, to socialize with other charismatic people, to dictate the vibe of interactions, to set the trends of what’s cool, and to express his personality freely.

His sense of being entitled doesn’t make him obnoxious or a conversation tyrant. Rather, it makes him confident that when he takes on a high-value identity people will enjoy it – like when a musician takes the stage and everyone likes it because he offers value.

 

RULE:

A high-value guy with a strong sense of who he is basically has free run with women (with people in general, actually). By most people’s standards, it’s almost absurd to see how quickly women respond to this kind of confidence.

When a woman meets a guy who feels completely confident to talk to her, joke around with her, tell stories, and generally lead the interaction, she responds well automatically. He’s in.

But if a guy isn’t comfortable doing these things, she usually blows him off. That’s why the way that women respond to you (how much value you have) starts from your identity.

So where does your identity come from?

It’s crucial to realize that your self-concept is always evolving through your interaction with the world – often in reaction to the social feedback that you get from other people.

Let’s say that you try to take on a more high-value role and you’re accepted for it. All of a sudden, your identity is reinforced as being of higher value.

But let’s say that you try to take on a more high-value role and you’re not accepted for it (maybe people make fun of you). Suddenly you realize that you shouldn’t try anymore, and your identity winds up holding you back in the future.

As human beings, we are hardwired to be social. And as social creatures, we are always engaged in the process of eliciting social feedback, which influences us to react by adapting our identity for better or worse.

 

DEFINITION: “SOCIAL FEEDBACK” OR “PINGING”

Our minds exist in a state of perpetual “pinging” with the people around us.

What that means, is that our minds are continually engaged in a sub-process of cross-referencing and validating our knowledge with the knowledge of others.

Through this subtle and constant process, our minds elicit “social feedback,” ranging from the most exceedingly subtle sub-communications to the most blatantly obvious responses – all of which are continually shaping and re-shaping our ideas about who we are and the world that we live in.

Whether you realize it or not, your interpretation of reality is very subjective, and massively influenced by the feedback that you get from your social environment.

That’s why for a person visiting a foreign land, there might be an experience of what is known as “culture shock,” where they feel a surreal disconnection from their environment. And likewise, for a person isolated too long from society, there might be lapses in sanity, where they can no longer relate themselves to the social norm.

We can conceptualize social feedback as a mirror through which the ways we act are cross-referenced and validated.

Because of social feedback, we have an idea of how to act “normal” – to recognize our status and how to act in a way that aligns with that.

Through our interaction with the world, we gain some concept of the behaviours that signify who people are, what roles they play, and their social value within a group.

On both a conscious and subconscious level, we have an idea of what a guy of high status and a guy of low status looks like.

We’ve all seen people of both high status and low status. Whether we’re conscious of it or not, our minds recognize the differences and responds emotionally.

So here is why social feedback is important.

 

RULE:

If in the ongoing process of “pinging” you get social feedback that tells you your status is increasing or diminishing, your mind will feel social pressure to react by assuming the identity that you understand to be most suitable to the situation at the time.

As social creatures, we are adaptive. If we’re in an environment where we have or lack status, we will feel it, and feel pressured to step into the behaviours that our minds recognize as being suitable to the role.

It’s for that reason that a girl from a small town where she’s popular will often take on a totally different persona when she’s in a larger town where she doesn’t know anybody and pretty girls are everywhere in sight. Her confidence will change, the types of jokes that she’ll laugh at will change, and the types of people who she’s willing to hang around with will change as well.

Now, before we go too far down this path, it has to be understood that all people react to social pressure differently. Some people react very obviously while others don’t react at all. It depends on a concept in their minds called their “entitlement criterion.”

 

DEFINITION: “ENTITLEMENT-CRITERION”

Your “entitlement-criterion” is the criterion that you think you need to meet in order to feel allowed to take on a high-value identity, and act in a way that women find attractive.

Depending on how your mind is wired, your entitlement-criterion will be made up of one or several of the following:

Superficial social standards: When you think that you’ve met the typically unrealistic standards of social conditioning (looking good, making money, having success, owning nice things, etc…)

Alliances: When you have guaranteed acceptance because of alliances (being friends with high-status people, having a hot girlfriend, having a lot of friend around, etc…)

Competencies: When you have anything that makes people want something from you (having access to something exclusive, having knowledge or expertise that people want to learn from, having entertaining jokes or stories or skills that engage people for a period of time, etc…)

Role-plays: When a temporary circumstance calls for you to assume a role that doesn’t reflect who you normally think you are (being the teacher in a teacher/student situation, being in a respected or professional role, being surrounded only by people of lesser status so filling the role of high-value by default, etc…)

Identity: When you have an internal belief of entitlement as being a part of who you are.

When your entitlement-criterion is met, your mind tells you “You are now allowed to take on all the subtle high-value behaviours that you’ve recognized in others.”

Your mind communicates this by the emotional state that it gives you. This phenomenon is often called “going into state.”

Being in state is a powerful experience. Often, the thing that literally addicts guys to improving with women is the state that they get out of it.

When you’re in state, the world is your oyster. Your mind quiets, and everything you do just works. Your humour hits, your stories rock, and people follow your lead. The guy who is the most in state usually has the strongest “magnet” of attention — so to speak.

There are different ways of thinking about why state has this impact, but a cogent explanation comes down to this: State is a reflection of identity, and your identity is a reflection of social value. Therefore, whoever is the most in-state must be the person with the highest social value.

Beyond that, as a part of human nature there is inherent value in people expressing their personality from a place of authenticity.

Your personality is a reflection of your life experiences. There is something to be learned from that. Your choices of humour or style, for example, are reflections of the way that you make sense of the world and the emotions that you want to evoke in it.

When you’re in state, you are expressing your personality without all the impurities of agenda. You are not trying to impress or persuade or conform. Your communication is more real, so to speak. People value that.

It’s often said that when you’re in state you are most connected to your authentic self. You aren’t reacting to how you think other people want you to be. You’re just expressing your personality and sharing your energy with people, and they can feel that you’re only offering value because you’re above needing a reaction from them.

For all of these reasons, being in state implies social value.

Maniac High talks about the affirmations he reads aloud before Sarging!This is my current ’statement of affirmations’ I read this aloud (with passion) before PU and other times when I get the chance as a reminder of who I am, what I do, and why I am successful.

Street PU does not start when you hit the streets. That is a middle step. Rather, PU starts before that, in the preparation phase.

The very first phase, is definition of attitude, and affirmation:

I talk about left/right brain stuff in it a bit. Basically idea is that emotion and passion come from the right, and logic comes from the left.

Below is the first step:

Ok, here we go:
(A)TTITUDE/CONFIDENCE! [you will EVERY DAY, PU or NOT, do this statement of ATTITUDE!]

Stage 0: Statement of BELIEF!

-You believe, and incorporate the following statement into your core being because

THEY ARE ALL TRUE!

-As you read them, they will go inside you, and become a part of YOU! Each time, you read them, say them outloud, they are MORE a part of YOU, and CANNOT be taken AWAY!

Stage 1: Clear mind, lose fear

-You will kill the AFC inside you, that polite/serious “nice guy”, is fading..fading..gone!

-You will relax!

-Wake up right brain

-Play fucking loud techno/other music (will allow right brain to break through left’s block)
[I like "Techno Mix USA; tracks 6,7,8.. it is just OVERPOWERING!]

-Go someplace you can talk to yourself/pump yourself up without place/time stress

-Your right brain will LEAD the left brain from here on out

- The left brain will assist in logical thinking during PU, but the CONFIDENCE, LEADERSHIP, and ENERGY of the right brain means that right brain will LEAD from now on!

-you are relaxing, right brain is awaking from his sleep and is becoming free to lead!!

-PU is a game.. it is practice, an experiment to see how far you can lead a
chick, how quickly

Subject: Statement of Affirmation!

-You will convey your words with ATTITUDE, and PASSION, because this is what you BELIEVE in. You are SURE you are right, you KNOW you can PU and ROCK chicks, because you are PREPARED. Because of that, you can work NON STOP with CONVICTION, and PASSION and ATTITUDE!
Stage 2: Statements of FACT / Build ATTITUDE [remember these important points!]

-You are UNSTOPPABLE!, like the terminator!, you WILL NOT STOP, and NOTHING phases you!

-You make NO excuses for your desires as a man!

-You are 50 feet tall

-YOU are an ASF master because you have STUDIED, EXPERIENCE, have PRACTICED, and are very much more PREPARED than any AFC’s out there!

-Because you are an ASF master, and are prepared, you will RULE tonight!

-YOU RULE over all the other AFC’s and losers out tonight!

-They are NOT competition to you, because they are NOT prepared!

-You only competition is your fear, and you will DEFEAT fear, because the right brain is unstoppable!

-You call bullshit and will turn on a dime when bullshit is tried!

-You ALWAYS keep your cool, unless you lose it intentionally to shake up a chick

-You take nothing for granted and CONFIRM everything by offering her a choice and a chance
(ie. she is busy, not interested, excuses, BF)

-You will CALL all her excuses, and find a away AROUND them jujitsu style!

-You will take NOTHING as sacred (you dont worry about what any ONE chick does/rejects)

-You will be POSITVE, but realize ‘its only a game’ cynically!

-You will NOT be phased by FAILURE, you will CRUSH it IMMEDIATELY, by REPLACING
failure with IMMEDIATE and SUBSEQUENT effort, resulting in SUCCESS!

-Visible attitude, eyebrows up ‘ooh’ its a chick!, lets see what we can do with her!
Stage 3: Re-affirmation of what you KNOW women WANT, and NEED from YOU!

-You are a PUA, prepared, and with SKILL on how to ROCK a chick SEXUALLY, and EMOTIONALLY!

-She needs you MORE than you need her, because SHE is REPLACEABLE, a commodity, and you are NOT! You are a RARE commodity, one who can ROCK a chick!

Subject: Statement of Affirmation!

-If she rejects you, she will be punished by spending the night ALONE, or with an INFERIOR man!

-If she is smart, and you CONVEY PERSONALITY and STRENGTH, you are DESTINED to SUCCEED!

-It is OBVIOUS women WANT to be seduced!

-It is OBVIOUS women WANT excitement!

-You are one of the FEW who can offer HER that excitement which she wants tonight!

-It is OBVIOUS women WANT adventure!

-You are one of the FEW who can offer HER that adventure which she wants tonight!

-It is even more OBVIOUS that YOU are more qualified and more capable than all the AFCs out there tonight to GIVE her that excitement and adventure!

-YOU are the ticket to that chick’s pleasure, excitment and fun tonight!

-You WILL show chicks that they need your excitment and sex… BECAUSE IT IS TRUE!!

-It is CERTAIN that any lady out there NEEDS it from YOU!

-It is also CERTAIN that she will be so GLAD after you did!

-Chicks who are SMART will accept the gift you are offering her!!

-Only chicks who DESERVE you and are SEXY enough, and SMART ENOUGH to recognize what YOU bring will be able to get you!

-You TOWER OVER chicks. You DOMINATE them COMPLETELY. They CANNOT SHAKE YOU, they CANNOT phase you!

Stage 4: Statement of Objective (to YOURSELF)

-The purpose of this evening is to GAIN SKILL! Because you are gaining skills, and trying NEW techniques, which you have PREPARED FOR, you will learn and DEVELOP, and REPORT on the and IMPROVE on them! That is the PURPOSE of the evening!

-Tonight is an ADVENTURE! You do not know how the night will end, but because of your preparation, it WILL be EXCITING and NEW! You will OVERCOME ALL FEAR, and CRUSH anything before, or inside you which is in the way of your GOAL!

-If you meet a PUA who is better than you, you will NOT fear him! Instead you will study him, practice HARDER, and become LIKE HIM!

-When stuck or faced with new situations, you will remember that the goal is to OFFER adventure, and excitement to the chick. You will allow left brain to think of ideas, but right brain will LEAD, and DIRECT the PU, with ATTITUDE, and CONVICTION.

-Life is full of amazing experiences, one adventure at a time!

Subject: Statement of Affirmation!

-You do NOT only pickup girls, you invite them on rewarding adventures of pleasure which only YOU can give them!

-You are looking for ADVENTURE, and an adventure PARTNER to share it with!

-You will do PU, and structure opportunities and offer challenges!

-You will ASSIST the chick in taking you up on those OPPORTUNITIES!

-You ARE desireable, and it is the job of the chick to SHOW YOU why she deserves you!
Stage 5: Reaffirmation!

-You will read the above 3 times, and state it (shout it) aloud to yourself each time and internalize it. (if you just read it, right brain will not hear it, and it wont work)

-By rereading aloud and reaffirming the above, it empowers you to do a PU..RIGHT NOW!!

-If you are not confident or lose confidence, go back and reread/reshout!!

-Go expose yourself to people (shopping, whatever) for 30 minutes

-Do eye contact practice, get chicks to eye you back

-Say ‘Hi’ to 3 chicks out there (Svengali warm up)

-Do this EVERY DAY, whether PU’ing, or NOT!

-Now GO!! **NOW**!